Setting Boundaries
To protect ourselves from the negative influence of our parents, it is crucial that we set clear boundaries.
This involves identifying what we can tolerate and firmly sticking to these limits. Trust me, I know it’s not an easy habit to form but if you want to help yourself then you’re going to have to stick to your guns on this one.
It may include politely declining certain requests or discussions and, in extreme cases, limiting contact with them.
Crucially, you should not let guilt consume you when establishing boundaries. It is important to recognize that the happiness of your parents does not solely depend on you and that it is completely acceptable to prioritize your own needs.
Don’t Waste Time Arguing
When engaging in futile arguments with parents, one may find it to be an exercise in futility, you may as well be trying to make cats walk in a straight line.
If parents obstinately refuse to lend an ear to reason, it is better to just down tools and walk away from such fruitless conversations.
Furthermore, it is important to avoid internalizing any hurtful words said by parents during these types of conversations.
It is essential to understand that their behavior does not define your worth, please let me repeat that: their behavior does not define your worth. Instead, their negative comments originate from their own insecurities and dissatisfaction.
Make an effort not to let their destructive words erode your self-esteem, how other people act is neither your problem or fault.
This is a tough step, especially if you’ve been brought up in a household where manipulation tactics have been present but hold steady and be firm: their words are just words and they come from a place of hurt and you do not have to engage with them.