I’m sure there’s a ton of posts about this, but each situation I saw was unique. I’ve gone out with this lady for a couple weeks. After the first date, we had a second the day after, and then we watched the sunset on Thursday. Things were going so well, we see each other 3x/week for dinner, hanging out, watched a Comedy Show, etc. She says she really likes me and really enjoys being around me, heck I was the person she called and went to when she felt unsafe during an event she went to. But anyways, we go camping for a night, everything was wonderful, and on the way back her dad called her and I asked her later whether her dad knows about me, she said no, she usually says with a friend and ask me the same question, which I replied yes, but I just tell things to my “mom” (she’s not my mom biologically, but raised me as is more my mom). I loosely tell her things like “I met a nice lady” but not “I’m dating her” unless it really is official.
She invites me over that night, and we hang out a bit, she told me she freaked out when I asked her that and that she wanted to take things slow since she JUST broke up with a cheating ex – which is very fair. We go back to her place to hang out a bit and I tell her it’s bothering me and I felt bad to asking that in the first place, and she tells me that she still really likes me, smiles, gives me several kisses, and we watch TV together. I leave since it was late, she walks me down, we kiss goodbye and she smiles, I wave as I pass by and she smiles and waves back.
Come Sunday, we haven’t texted all day and she’s hanging out with her dad. I texted her “I hope you and your dad are having a good day :)” and I get a text the next morning saying “I appreciate that thank you :)” but she also checked in on Saturday saying that she was thinking a lot about it and what’s best for her is to take a few days, thinking she’s “more ready for something new, but not sure yet. Need to slow down and process things, I hope you understand.”
I’m clearly upset, she’s wonderful and caring, and I feel like that one question screwed me over. I talked to my therapist about it, and my close friend and both say just wait. We’ve done so much and enjoyed each other’s company where it would be sad to let it die on this hill. We had Christmas plans together, new years plans together, camping trips we want to do, etc.