A mum-to-be has confessed she isn’t sure who the father of her baby is because she cheated on her partner around the time that she fell pregnant.
The anonymous woman said she and her partner were “so excited” when they discovered she was pregnant, but when she went for an early scan and was told she was 13 weeks along, she had a horrible realisation the baby might not be her partner’s.
She said that 13 weeks ago she attended her partner’s sister’s wedding, where the family all stayed for the entire weekend. While at the wedding, the woman ended up cheating on her partner on two separate occasions – with his cousin.
In a post on BabyCentre, the woman said: “On Friday (the night before the wedding) we all had a few drinks – my partner had too much and went to bed.
I’d say the night ended around 12 as everyone wanted to be fresh the next day. I was tidying the kitchen with my partner’s cousin and he asked if I wanted to go sit in the lounge and have a drink before bed.
“One thing led to another and I’m so ashamed to say we slept together. It was honestly the best sex I’d ever had, it was exciting and I did things I’d not done in years. Sex with my partner is good but his cousin was amazing.
The next morning I felt so guilty and really did regret it but when we were the last two to go to bed again that night, it happened again.”
The mum-to-be admitted that while it was exciting at the time, she’s “so ashamed of it” now and regrets it “so much”. She said she also slept with her partner during the wedding weekend so can’t be sure who the father of her child is, and doesn’t know what to do.
She added: “I know I am an awful person and this coming out would cause so much upset within the whole family. As the cousin has a fiancée. Would it be unreasonable to wait until the baby is here, do a paternity test and pray my partner is the dad and not say anything, or do I just admit everything and come clean now?”
Commenters encouraged the woman to come clean to her partner before the baby is born as leaving it so long will only make things worse. In a follow-up post, she said she had confessed everything and it had gone “as bad as you could have expected”, with her boyfriend calling quits on their relationship.
“He was so angry and doesn’t want anything to do with me his cousin or the pregnancy, he said if the baby is his then he will be there for the baby but we are done, he is moving out at the weekend,” she wrote.
“Two stupid choices I made have cost me everything, my (ex) boyfriend is a wonderful man and I never deserved him and now my baby won’t have that family unit which is something I’ll have to live with. Going forward my baby is my main focus.”
She also said she feels as though a “weight has been lifted” now that she’s told everyone the truth. Both potential fathers have indicated they want to be involved in the child’s life once they find out who the dad is, with the boyfriend’s cousin stating he “wants to come to appointments” and even be there for the birth.