A GIRLFRIEND has got into a dispute with her boyfriend, after she revealed that she stares at her neighbour through the window when he’s standing in the kitchen naked….CONTINUE READING
She believes that it’s perfectly fine to do so, but her other half is totally opposite when it comes to his thoughts on the subject matter.
The girlfriend revealed that she lives in an apartment building that has a courtyard which “is very small.”
It means that she can see “very clearly” into the apartments opposite hers.
Taking to social media account Reddit,
she, who remains anonymous, asks others their opinion on what she does.
She explains: “While I was in my room I saw in the window opposite me a muscular man who was naked.
“He was just standing in the middle of his kitchen naked for like two minutes.
“So I just watched him (taking care to glance away if he turned his face in the direction of the window).
“I personally don’t feel like it’s wrong.
“It’s one thing to spy on a neighbour but when he’s just in my line of vision, I’m not obliged to look away. He could close his curtains if he didn’t want to be seen.
“Nonetheless, I’m interested to know what other people think.
“My boyfriend disagrees with me and thinks it’s wrong to look at a naked person in the privacy of their home, regardless of the situation (and that’s not based on the jealousy of me looking at another man but rather based on his strict sense of right and wrong).”
The post created a big reaction with over hundred people sharing their thoughts in much detail.
One replied: “Why did you glance away if he turned his face toward the window?
“It seems there is more than one dimension to this example: one, the act of being an unseen watcher; and two, seeing someone naked.
“The first can be experienced as power. You see them but they don’t see you.
“The nakedness ups the ante — it’s something most people regard as private.
“So you are watching someone doing something private, apparently without their awareness. “When they turn their face toward you, you look away.
“Moral codes define boundaries that regulate our interactions to promote harmony and the greater good.
“When our natural individual impulses incline us to do one thing, an inner sense of propriety may prompt us to refrain.
“Control over the means of looking is an issue. Many have commented that your neighbour has the power to close his curtains and yet chooses not to. Or does he?
“It is easy not to be aware. He may have chosen to open his curtains at one time but forgotten to close them later on.
“What do we know? Your respective genders (he’s male, you’re female), your relationship (neighbours), the act (you looking), his state (naked).
“What don’t we know? We don’t know if he is conscious of his visibility at the moment. We don’t know if he is comfortable with being seen naked by you.
“Given that uncertainty, your inner prompting to look away when he might see you looking, and your boyfriend’s concerns, seem valid.
“So I’d say, it’s not wrong to notice, but it is wrong to watch.”
Another person said: “It’s generally considered impolite to look into someone’s home.
“The fact that you made an effort not to be seen doing it (pretended not to be looking when he looked over) suggests on some level you already know what you’re doing is impolite.
“That doesn’t mean it’s horribly morally wrong but the replies in this thread defending looking in people’s windows are a little ridiculous.”
A third joined in, by adding: “I’m going to look at this from the naked person’s side of things.
“If I’m standing in my window
naked and someone sees me, then it’s on me.
“If I don’t want to be seen naked, then I will not stand there in my window letting it all hang out.
“Anyone that looks is going to look because it almost can’t be helped.
“I don’t care who you are, if someone is naked in a window, you’re going to look, even if you aren’t getting anything out of it. That’s just human nature.
“You can argue that it’s some sort of violation because he may not be aware of it, but that argument still falls short when logic dictates that if you are standing in a window naked in a place where you are overlooked by neighbours, you should know better.
“There are no victims here, and there’s nothing wrong with you for looking.
“It’s not like you are sneaking up to his window to get a peek when there is an expectation of privacy.
“It almost seems like this guy doesn’t care, or even wants to be seen.
“For the record, I am a woman, and I would say the same thing as this: a woman roaming naked in her apartment with the curtains open….CONTINUE READING